Archive for February, 2009

Oregon Event

On Saturday, May 9th at 6pm Ethiopian Orphan Relief, Inc. will be hosting a Dessert & Cocktail Auction at the North Star Ballroom in Portland. Reservations will open in a few weeks. If you would like to be added to our invite list please email kim@ethiopianorphanrelief.org

At this time we are procuring items for the event! We will be having both a live and silent auction. If you have a new item that you would like to donate, or maybe a talent you would like to offer up for auction please let us know. We are looking for a variety of items. Maybe your an licensed electrician and could donate a few hours of your time, A personal chef  who can offer a few meals, have a time-share/house in a vacation spot, would like to donate a Organic cow, work for a TV station and can provide a “behind the scenes tour,” know of someone who owns a bike shop and could donate a bike. The ideas are endless.

We excited about the auction and the proceeds will go towards our EOR Projects in Ethiopia.

For more info please contact kim@ethiopianorphanrelief.org

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Parenting/International Adoption Books

After being home with our son Ezra for just over six months, I thought it would be a good time to review and discuss some of that parenting/international adoption books that have been helpful for our family both as we prepared to travel and since he’s been home.  First of all, if you are waiting to be matched or go pick up your child, READ ALL YOU CAN NOW! As most parents have found, reading books is one of those things that can be difficult when you have a little one in the house. I also found that during the long wait for a referral , court, birth certificate, etc., it was great to have lots to read to keep my mind off the waiting.

In terms of books about international and transracial adoption, by far my favorite is Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child by Patty Cogen. It came out in 2008 and is by far the most international-adoption-specific book available. It has great tools that can help families from “your first hours together through the teen years.” Cogen adopted her daughter from China and has led groups for families with internationally adopted children for years. She coins her approach “proactive parenting” and discusses ways parents of internationally adopted children can nurture their child’s identity, connection, and resiliency. She gives hands-on tools throughout the book that are appropriate to different stages of development and also uses a fictional group of parents/children to illustrate some typical issues faced by internationally adopted kids and to show how these tools can help.

 I found Cogen’s book much more useful than Deborah Gray’s books Nurturing Adoptions or Attaching In Adoption, which while they are helpful, seem to be more relevant to foster adoptions. However, the latter two books do go into the science of attachment and attachment disorders in a way that I find fascinating. Also, there are sections in Gray’s books that deal with grief, trauma, loss, cultural change, race, getting medical diagnoses, working with mental health providers, etc. 

Some good books that are specific to transracial adoption are In Their Own Voices by Simon and Roorda in which transracial adoptees tell their own stories.  I think this is an essential book to read if you are considering a transracial adoption. Also, Jaiya John’s Black Baby White Hands, about his experience as a transracial adoptee in the 70s in New Mexico, is very enlightening.  I know there are other great transracial adoption books out there, so please feel free to list your favorites in the comments section on this blog post. I also loved I’m Chocolate, You’re Vanilla, “Raising Healthy Black and Biracial Children in a Race-Conscious World” by Marguerite Wright.

In terms of general parenting books, some I like are Parenting from the Inside Out, “How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive” by Siegel and Hartzell, Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn, and The Science of Parenting by Margot Sunderland. Of course, all of Dr. Barry Sears books like The Baby Book and Attachment Parenting are great resources.  I think Alfie Kohn’s thoughts on unconditional parenting (a parenting approach based on unconditional love and not on reward and punishment) are especially relevant to parenting adopted children. He cites copious amounts of research that call into question many parenting styles that have become popular today but that aren’t based on any research and may in fact be quite detrimental to children’s psycho-emotional development. The Science of Parenting also looks at brain development and current brain research and how that can inform our parenting in such a way that we raise happy, emotionally balanced children.

I hope you have found these suggestions helpful. Again, feel free to add your own recommendations to the comments on this post. Happy reading!!!

-Jane Gregorie

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Theatre for Ethiopia 2009: The Dancing Spider

Dear Friends,

As you know, when we brought Helina home, we were deeply moved by our visit to Ethiopia. While there, we met some girls who were members of Children’s Heaven, a program designed to help girls ages 9-17 who have been orphaned by AIDS. Most of the girls assisted by Children’s Heaven live in foster homes or with extended family and rely on the center for food, clothes and friendship. The girls are also given the funds, uniforms and books that allow them to go to school. During our visit, each girl at CH stood and told us her age, her grade, her hobbies and what she wanted to be when she grew up. It was then that I realized the miracle that had happened for them–they were going to grow up! They were going to have an education! We were inspired by these brave, determined and resilient young people and came back to the States determined to help them. Children’s Heaven recently lost their permanent structure, and have been operating out of a storage unit covered with tarps. Ethiopian Orphan Relief, Inc. is working to raise enough money to give the girls a permanent home.

When I returned to work at Denver Academy, I wanted to share some of my experiences in Africa with my students. I decided that the Spring Middle School Play would be based on African Folktales. The students have rallied behind the idea of a fundraiser to help support the Children’s Heaven building project through EOR.

Please help us as the Middle School students of Denver Academy reach out to support the orphaned children of Ethiopia. We are having a special Saturday performance of “The Dancing Spider”, a one act musical for all ages, at 2:00pm on March 14th. All proceeds will go to the Children’s Heaven building project through EOR. Representatives from EOR will be i the theatre lobby to answer questions, and EOR’s notecards of orphan artwork will be for sale. I would love to see you there! For more information, please visit EOR’s website at www.ethiopianorphanrelief.org and click on “Fundraising Events” then “Theatre for Ethiopia 09″.

Thank you so much,

Katie Bradford

Adoptive parent and EOR volunteer

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Quilter Needed

Are you a quilter with some extra time on your hands? Would you like to share your talent? EOR is having a Dessert & Cocktail Auction on May 9th in Portland, Oregon. Proceeds from this event will benefit our projects in Ethiopia.

We would like to have a quilt made that includes images of Ethiopian Children’s Artwork. We have some amazing drawings made by orphans currently in Ethiopia and children who have recently found their forever families. We would like to have those images on the quilt.

EOR would pay for the fabric and we are just looking for a sweet kind heart that would make the quilt!

This item would be PRICELESS at our auction.

If you would like to quilt please contact kim@ethiopianorphanrelief.org for more information.

Thank you for considering this project.

     Kim

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Tuberculosis – Part 2 “Treatment”

The news that Meron ( our 8 month old adopted daughter) had TB was a blow, however, we were thrilled that it was a curable disease that could be easily treated with antibiotics.

Luckily, we live in a city that has many specialists to choose from.  Finding a pediatric Infectious disease Dr was our first issue.  We found a great one and started her on three (or was it 4?) antibiotics right away.  In our state it is a law that people with TB needs to do Direct Observation Therapy (DOT).  DOT means that TB pts  need to be observed taking their medicine every day.  TB medication often has bad side effects like joint pain, and stomach upset.  On top of that, the duration of treatment is 9 months.  Think about it.  Most people have a hard time finishing their antibiotic prescriptions if they last 1 week.  9 months of therapy can be tough, especially if the medication makes you feel ill.  So, to protect the community from a highly infectious disease, the state mandates  pts with TB need to take their medicine in front of a health worker for compliance.

Every morning at 7:30 AM, the county health department sends a person to our house to watch us give Meron her medicine.  Overall, she does really well with it.  We initially hid the medication in applesauce or carrot juice.  When the protests became too great, we decided just to give her the medication straight up.  It is what it is (horrible tasting) ,and covering the flavor a bit with applesauce barely hid the taste. 

We then had to get a sputum sample from her in order make sure she was on the correct antibiotics.   If we could get a good sample of sputum (lung spit) from her we could be sure that the TB was sensitive to the antibiotics we had her on.   In adults, this sputum sample is easy to get.  “please cough up some phlegm” … In a baby… not as easy….   We took her to the hospital three days a row early in the AM.  The Dr inserted a tube down her nose to get some swallowed spit from her stomach.    NOT FUN for her.  However, this is the test that helped us the most.  The chance that we actually  would isolate the TB in one of these samples was about 50/50.  We lucked out, and 7 weeks later we found out that she had a very fancy type of TB. Multi-drug resistant TB (MDR-TB).     The TB that she had was resistant to several of the antibiotics that she had been on for several months already.  Damn!! !!!

So we had to change it up and start her on a completely new regimen.   She now needed 5 different antibiotics and the treatment would be 18-24 months instead of the standard 9 months.   Four were given by mouth…. and we were used to that by now.  Sadly, one had to be given through her veins (IV).  We got a central IV line placed in her chest and infused her medication at home (with the help of home health) , 3 times per week for 4 months.  A central line is a type of long term IV site that a cancer patient might have.  The trick was to keep her from pulling at it.  We wrapped her up in long sleeve turtle necks, ace bandages, and tape.  I must say that my husband and I did a hell of a job keeping her hands away from that line.  It was a true commitment. 

It was a great day when we were finished with the IV medication.  Getting that IV line taken out was WONDERFUL.  From then on, we only had to give her the oral medication twice a day.  The health department continues to come and visit every morning at 7:30.  They health workers that watch Meron take her medicine have become a part of our lives.  They are sweet people that have a soft spot for one of their youngest TB patients.  They come Monday thru Friday.  They trust us to give the night and weekend medication without observation. 

The medication can be tough on her little body and we constantly watch her for side effects.  She also gets blood tests to check her liver, thyroid, and kidney function every 3 months. We get eye examinations and hearing tests every 6 months. 

This morning I e-mailed our TB Dr to find out what the FINAL date of medication will be.  We are planning a big party for our little girl.  I think April 22 is the day and we are almost there.   We are so lucky for so many reasons……  to have health insurance, to have specialists so close to our home, to be dealing with a curable disease, and to have a daughter that is truly a fighter.  My husband always says that Meron  is the “toughest kid on the block” .

I agree.   Thanks for your time and interest in our TB story.  Feel free to email me with any questions at lauren@ethiopianorphanrelief.org

REMEMBER…. Get your adoptive kids tested for TB!!!!!!!!!!

 Here is a link to a video of Meron’s medication administration.  I created this for other parents.   http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k6bEIKfHmOI

    Lauren

 

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2008 Annual Report

Our 2008 Annual Report is now available on our website at www.ethiopianorphanrelief.org. Click on “Annual Reports” then on “Annual Report 2008.”

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